that I like to call, "What would you do if?"
What would you do if you were called to be president of say, the Primary and the Music Leader is extremely unreliable. This person does a great job (when she shows up) and has great ideas (that sometimes get followed through on).
Now, let's also say that this person's spouse writes their own play of " A Christmas Carol." This person calls you up begging for help in filling extra slots because they need boys and hey! you have boys the right age. Then you are told that two of your kids have been cast to play the children of Scrooge's ex-girlfriend and that you are needed for the choir. Well, a couple of weeks go by and it's getting closer to time for rehearsals to start and you ask this person when you and your family are needed only to be told that the cast is full. That's right, the parts were taken away from YOUR kids and given to someone else. THEN, on Thanksgiving you are chatting with a cousin-in-law and SHE tells you that her kids are playing the children of Scrooge's former girlfriend! And in the mean time your kids keep asking when they are going to be in A Christmas Carol. You are at a loss as to what you should tell them and just change the subject each time they bring it up.
Now. You have to go out of town for an unexpected family funeral and get home very late Saturday night. The next morning, lo and behold, said Music Leader doesn't show up. No phone call. Nothing. Zip. Zilch. Then you run into said Person at Wally World the day of Opening Night for the play. She apologizes for not letting you know she wouldn't be there on Sunday but after all, she's been up to 2:30 a.m. every night working on sets for the play and oh by the way, could you help out in the box office tonight?
Not that this happened to me. It's all hypothetical. I'm just sayin', What would you do?
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Tell her how you feel. Sister X, I felt _________ (slighted, frustrated, etc)when you kicked my family out the play because __________(my kids were counting on it, etc). As far as the music leader calling is concerned, welcome to the frustrations of being a president. My advice: Use the CDs and do it yourself (that's what we do).
Oh ugh. I can't stand it when people can't get their acts together. Hmm....Ex-Lax brownies???
I would be mad and frustrated and annoyed and probably vent to a friend or two and then eventually I would think of some excuse the offender "probably" had to make it ok and then get on with my life. Of course, this is hypothetically speaking. ;)
It's hard to love a hypothetical porcupine! I've crossed paths with some myself...
I hope I would chastise her just enough to let her know that she was being extremely insensitive and selfish. And let her know that I wouldn't put up with any more of her Monkey business. Other people have lives too! And they just may be equally busy compared to hers, or even more so!!!!
What would you do???
Can you say.... Ask for a new music leader?
I don't think the two are necessarily connected, and I think it's important to respond to each incident separately. For the play, I would say "Sorry, I can't help out. My kids were excited to help out in the cast, but then you didn't need them. I'm sitting this one out." For the music leader issue, I would say, "It's very hard to help the children learn the music when you aren't filling your calling. I need you there every week. What's interfering? Is this calling too much for you right now?"
This past Sunday I got a phone call half an hour before sacrament meeting from *her* to let me know that she was just too tired from breaking down the set the night before and wouldn't be able to make it to church. Not for Primary or for sacrament meeting when the kids were singing as the intermediate hymn.
And I do think the two incidents are slightly connected. Because she's just that kind of person.
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